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Trini Kaos is strong but not tough. She hates being told no. She loves to say yes. She’s always in love. She likes scotch or whiskey, listens to fortune cookies, and collects books indiscriminately. She is a Trinidadian with a temper to match. Some call her pansexual. Some call her queer. She calls herself evenly odd. She feeds on sugar and wishful thinking. She lives in Canada where she works an earnest 24 hr job as a feminist migrant activist and sometimes does burlesque or spoken word on stage—kind of like a superhero with a secret identity. Only not super. Or secret. Chaos tends to be attached to her in a passionate affair.
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Violent Relationships with Dr. Leelia Franck

(Source: exgynocraticgrrl)

❝ In San Francisco last year, a man stabbed a woman in the face and arm after she didn’t respond positively to his sexually harassing her on the street.

In Bradenton, Fla., a man shot a high school senior to death after she and her friends refused to perform oral sex at his request.

In Chicago, a scared 15-year-old was hit by a car and died after she tried escaping from harassers on a bus.

Again, in Chicago, a man grabbed a 19-year-old walking on a public thoroughfare, pulled her onto a gangway and assaulted her.

In Savannah, Georgia, a woman was walking alone at night and three men approached her. She ignored them, but they pushed her to the ground and sexually assaulted her.

In Manhattan, a 29-year-old pregnant woman was killed when men catcalling from a van drove onto the sidewalk and hit her and her friend.

Last week, a runner in California — a woman — was stopped and asked, by a strange man in a car, if she wanted a ride. When she declined he ran her over twice.


Street Harassment: Is a Man Running Over a 14-Year Old Girl for Refusing Sex Serious Enough? | Soraya Chemaly

(via ethiopienne)

Gettin' Real Tired Of Everybody's Fuckery: (TW: rape) 50 facts about rape - 2012



Reblogging because this is important.

When Women Rape: Everything We're Not Talking About

"By labeling the source of violence against women as (heterosexual) male dominance and patriarchy, many feminists (lesbian and heterosexual) assume that lesbian relationships are free of oppressive mistreatment…"

Russo hits the nail on the head. It is important to remember that rape culture exists, and that it is pervasive. It also important to look at the ways in which misogyny hurts bisexual, homosexual and transgender people; in this case through police officers who may not acknowledge the validity of the person’s rape. In this case, women are not considered rapists because women are not considered agents of violence or initiators of sex.

The fact that some police officers have trouble understanding how to prosecute crimes because they don’t understand that sex between women, and by extension, rape of a woman by a woman, is real, should deeply upset feminists. It may seem strange and twisted to some feminists that in order to acknowledge women have sexual agency and are fully realized human beings, we must also acknowledge that women are capable of rape and other abusive methods of control and dominance. For the sake of rape survivors, I hope we can confront that truth.

Anonymous Creates Map of Turtle Island's Missing and Murdered Aboriginal Women

❝ More girls have been killed in the last FIFTY years, precisely because they were girls, than men were killed in ALL the battles of the 20th century.

More girls are killed in this routine gendercide in any ONE decade, than people were slaughtered in ALL the genocides of the 20th century.


Nicholas KristofHalf the Sky

Read that AGAIN.

(via kateoplis)

the scarlet woman: "NRA Vendor Sells Ex-Girlfriend Target That Bleeds When You Shoot It"


Trigger Warning: Domestic Violenceimage

This was brought to my attention yesterday by a reader and I meant to get to it then, but unfortunately thesis work got in the way! Apologies for that :) From PolicyMic:

Just when you thought the NRA’s annual convention in Houston this weekend couldn’t…

❝ The other question everybody asks is, why doesn’t she just leave? Why didn’t I walk out? I could have left any time. To me, this is the saddest and most painful question that people ask, because we victims know something you usually don’t: It’s incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser. Because the final step in the domestic violence pattern is kill her. Over 70 percent of domestic violence murders happen after the victim has ended the relationship, after she’s gotten out, because then the abuser has nothing left to lose. Other outcomes include long-term stalking, even after the abuser remarries; denial of financial resources; and manipulation of the family court system to terrify the victim and her children, who are regularly forced by family court judges to spend unsupervised time with the man who beat their mother. And still we ask, why doesn’t she just leave?


“Why domestic violence victims don’t leave” -  Leslie Morgan Steiner  (via eaaao)

Read the comments on almost any story about a woman who was attacked/killed by partner, and I 100% guarantee you will see one that implies that the victim is at fault for not leaving or not leaving sooner. DON’T BLAME THE VICTIM.

(via stfuconservatives)

I can’t remember if i’ve posted this before… but always true!!!!

(Source: childofweakness)




Make Your Move! End Sexual Violence

Doing it right.

we need more of this in the world





Go Philly! Love these ads.


This is what people see as they commute to work in Philly. 

Hollaback Philly is absolutely doing it right

100% doing it right

Really liking that there’s a campaign that deals with street harassment. Although perhaps the message should be, don’t harass people, instead of yell back at them. Not everyone has the circumstances to be able to yell back.  There are obvious safety concerns, as well as the simple fact that not one time that I’ve yelled back has that helped for the better at all…

I saw it as a call to bystanders to not just walk by but call someone out, not necessarily the victim calling them out. The victim knows what street harassment is. I saw it as a campaign for the bystanders. So if someone is harassing a woman, his buddy next to him would call him out. Not the victim. 


(Source: poweredbygirl)


TRIGGER WARNING: discusses details of being triggered
Trigger Warning by artist Suzy X
Source: Bitch Media


TRIGGER WARNING: discusses details of being triggered

Trigger Warning by artist Suzy X

Source: Bitch Media




I just NOPEd the most forceful nope of my life




I just NOPEd the most forceful nope of my life

(Source: bonitabreezy)

*Trigger Warning* on the experiences of a survivor:

" I know how to look at this body as a foreign object. Though I can’t do it anymore, I know how to watch it from the sidelines; watch it perform real life while I am just a shadow on the side. I know how to ignore pain, feeling like I’m on the brink of passing out or dying before I’ll stop. I know how to curl myself up into the smallest space necessary. Flick my eyes to the ground, stand in a corner, wrap my arms around myself, and not move until someone gives me permission to exist in the space that I’m in.

I wait for permission. And even when I have it, it never seems enough, not for my terror that I am taking too much, or that at any given moment I will be informed that it was a joke, or that I broke some unspoken rule, or that the rules have changed. The rules always changed in my family, there was always that invisible trip wire that changed right into wrong and said now you’re gonna get it.

I do not ask, and when I do, I punish myself. When I lost my bus card and had no cash on me, I texted my platonic soulmate for directions on how to get home. I knew she’d offer to drive me, I knew it was manipulative, but I could not ask. That is taking up space, it is something far more than I deserve. And if she had no offered, I would have continued my walk home, I would have walked the two hours in the dark, because that is what I deserve.

I don’t know how to speak. I know how to say no, no, I’m fine and maybe when the danger’s past I’ll tell you what was wrong. Maybe. I know how to go from crying to a grin from the time it takes to hear a key in a lock and the door opening. I know how to be always tired and never upset.

I am terrified at the smallest slip up, not just something that would reveal all the problems I have, but something that would reveal that I’m human. I am sorry I am human, I’m sorry you have to know that I eat and sleep and need to use the bathroom, that I bleed every month, that I get dirty, that I exist. I am sorry that I am not more bone than skin, and sorry that I ever do anything that calls attention to the fact that I’m here. When my roommate told me that he can be in the same room and not know I was there until he hears the door closing as I leave, I wasn’t upset over the idea that I don’t know how to call attention to myself when entering a room, I was upset that I can’t close the door more quietly.”

I’m privileged to not have an eating disorder, but everything else in this blog post so resonated with me.

❝ What people don’t understand is when we say “Teach men not to rape,” we’re not talking about telling them not to jump out of the bushes in a ski mask and grab the nearest female. We’re talking about the way we teach boys that masculinity is measured by power over others, and that they aren’t men unless they “get some.” We’re talking about teaching men (and women) that it’s not okay to laugh at jokes about rape and abuse. We’re talking about telling men that a lack of “No” doesn’t mean “Yes,” that if a woman is too drunk to consent they shouldn’t touch her, that dating someone - or even being married to someone - does not mean automatic consent. We’re talking about teaching boys to pay attention to the girl they’re with, and if she looks uncomfortable to stop and ask if she’s okay, because sometimes girls don’t know how to say stop in a situation like that. We’re talking about how women have the right to change their mind. Even if she’s been saying yes all night, if she says no, that’s it. It’s over. That’s what we mean when we say “Teach men not to rape.”

— Kalitena on Facebook  (via oldloveinyoungbodies)

(Source: waitforhightide)